Thinking of my entire life in terms of one 24-hour day has brought me valuable perspective. Really, every day is a battle for perspective.
That’s the point of my blog post Your Life in One Day, Part 1. Check it out here: https://danholland2819.wordpress.com/2018/11/18/your-life-in-one-day/
I ended part one by saying: It’s time to move forward. Let’s take it one step further. Sometimes we may wonder if we are living our very best.
For example, maybe we wonder if things shouldn’t be moving faster and we may get the feeling that we’re somehow falling behind. Or we may worry that life has passed us by. We may even find ourselves feeling discontent and saying things like, “When I get a real job, or maybe a different job, then things will be great.” Or, “As soon as I can afford to retire things will be great.” Or, “Things were great when…I was younger…I lived in a different place.” Before you know it you’ve lost perspective about the life God has given you. Whenever we lose sight of what God is doing, we can easily become worried about the future, regretful of the past or doubt ourselves in the present.
As I worked through my life in one day, I came across a speech called Decade by Decade in which Bobb Biehl shares what we might expect at each decade or phase of life. Bobb is an author, speaker and executive mentor and has produced more than 65 tools for leadership, management, and life. I found this speech to be particularly helpful for giving me context for both my life as well as that of my adult children. I hope it’s helpful to you too! Here is my summary and if you care to watch his talk the link is at the end of the blog.
To make it easier for you to think of your life in terms of one day I’ve matched each decade with the corresponding time of day from part one of Your Life in One Day.
Birth to 10 years old – 7:00am-9:00am
SECURITY is the most important thing for all children. Children need to hear “I love you” and “I’m proud of you.”
10 to 20 years old – 9:00am-11:00am
SELF seems to be the driving factor in the way 10 to 20 year olds view the world. If you have kids in this age range, one way he suggests to help him or her develop a healthy perspective of both themselves and others in the world is to send him or her on a mission trip to serve others. This could also be accomplished by serving others throughout your community in a variety of ways including such things as mowing a widow’s yard, visiting someone who’s lonely, or donating a blanket or coat for someone in need.
20’s – 11:00am-1:00pm
SURVIVAL is the key word for those at this time of life. If this is you, you probably wonder if you can survive in the adult world. During this time decide what you don’t want to do. Spend this time of life learning about yourself and others. Start saving 10% of your income. Discover if you’re are a goal-setter, problem solver or opportunity seizer. Bobb says that only 15% of the population tend to be goal setters, 80% are problem solvers, 5% seize opportunities. If you’d like more context click on the link below to listen to his speech.
30’s – 1:00pm-3:00pm
SUCCEED is the key word for those in their 30s. People in this time of life are driven to succeed, almost with a sense of urgency. At the same time that they are raising kids, they are working hard to get things done ‘before it’s too late’. It’s recommended that you schedule balance into your life and that you get a mentor. Also, embrace the struggle that’s likely to show up between the ages of 37-43 when you wonder, “Is what I’m doing making a difference?”
40s – 3:00pm-5:00pm
STRUGGLE and SIGNIFICANCE are key words for those in their 40s. Resist the temptation to define yourself by your life’s work. Understand that this is just a phase of your life and not your entire life.
50s – 5:00pm-7:00pm
Now your hitting your STRIDE! Don’t waste the time! If you’re in your 50’s, Bobb recommends becoming a mentor to someone in their 30’s. Also, relax and realize that while you desire success, this will likely be the third most productive decade of your life. If you’re hiring for a position, you might consider hiring someone between the ages of 50-53 because they are just hitting their stride.
60s – 7:00pm-9:00pm
STRATEGIC is the key word for those in their 60s. This has proven to be the most productive decade in terms of the greatest income and influence. Rather than slowing down, consider how the Lord might use you in ways that take advantage of your unique life’s experience.
70s – 9:00pm-11:00pm
SUCCESSION is the key word for those in their 70s. This is the second most productive decade of a person’s life. If you’re here keep your estate plan updated. Take time to write out memories and advice for your family and friends. Keep mentoring.
80s – 11:00pm-1:00am
SLIPPERY seems to be the key word because so much can happen at this time of life. As I’m writing this, I just returned from visiting with Olive, who is 96 years old. Her mind is sharp, her faith is inspiring, her attitude is contagious. If I am blessed to live another 40 years, I hope that I am just like her in mind, faith and attitude.
I’ll conclude with two thoughts from scripture that apply to all of us regardless where we are in life:
First, “Let every detail in your lives—words, actions, whatever—be done in the name of the Master, Jesus, thanking God the Father every step of the way.” (Colossians 3:17, The Message) Regardless where you are, be thankful to God. Not necessarily FOR the circumstances, but while your IN the circumstances be thankful. Live for Jesus Christ.
Second, “If you don’t know what you’re doing, pray to the Father. He loves to help. You’ll get his help, and won’t be condescended to when you ask for it. Ask boldly, believingly, without a second thought. People who “worry their prayers” are like wind-whipped waves. Don’t think you’re going to get anything from the Master that way, adrift at sea, keeping all your options open.” (James 1:5-8, The Message)
My big take-aways from this passage are: FOCUS! Follow One Course Until Successful. Also, BE BOLD in your conversation with God beacuse he loves to help you do what he’s asked you to do.
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